I offer myself goals to reach before rest yet at seventy four that strategy is switching to I will achieve my goals /chores better more efficiently if I rest now
"you haven't done anything/enough to deserve it (yet). you really should go work out/cook dinner/unpack boxes/reorganize the closet/make that phone call/schedule that doctor's appointment/go for a walk outside..."
Ha ha - I interpreted the cue to fight the patriarchy as support for my intention to treat myself to a fantastic yoga nidra session while everyone else is watching football!
'when I finish, this task, and that one, and the next...then I will deserve to rest!" Result: Ouf! Very seldom. Thought I am getting better. I sit to meditate every day. And I pause so much more....but if I would just let it go....I think I might not get up for weeks!
Time, time, time. Lack thereof. "If I lie down now, is that going to change the trajectory of my day?" (Hell yes it will and amen to that) BUT the trajectory I worry about is slipping into a less productive energy.
After 20+ years of practice, I am still "bad" at Savasana. Feel that I took the time to practice and now time to get on with whatever. It always has been a challenge for me.
To answer the question of how I resist, here is what my inner voice says: “Yes you totally will rest. But first... (fill in the blank)” usually it’s cooking, laundry, or at work, “as soon as I’m done with the project...” lol.
Thank you! Great message and reminder to value rest. I’m 78 years and honestly that inner critic is still alive and well! I don’t have a paying job but do have interest in reading and art work and piano. Never feel like I did “enough”! Even when I do savasana I wonder did I do a good savasana! Sigh!
i play mind games: ie if i am aware that i am resisting then i am silently witnessing my behavior. and as silence is associated with rest. i am resting. (laughter)
fyi i have been meditating twice a day for more than 50 years. and generally sleep 10 hours each night. and STILL there is resistance. the indefatigable nature of ego.
I offer myself goals to reach before rest yet at seventy four that strategy is switching to I will achieve my goals /chores better more efficiently if I rest now
I totally agree with you Suellen
I love this, what a great switch. I’m going to try it out, thank you for sharing.
"you haven't done anything/enough to deserve it (yet). you really should go work out/cook dinner/unpack boxes/reorganize the closet/make that phone call/schedule that doctor's appointment/go for a walk outside..."
....and when you write it down, doesn't it seem exhausting...big hugs to you Anne from east coast Australia
This 👆🏽! I am right there with you Anne. 😔
"I have too much to do yet today. I have that deadline coming up and need to keep working."
All the post it notes with reminders of what I need to do...if I could only get to the bottom of that list!
Ha ha - I interpreted the cue to fight the patriarchy as support for my intention to treat myself to a fantastic yoga nidra session while everyone else is watching football!
'when I finish, this task, and that one, and the next...then I will deserve to rest!" Result: Ouf! Very seldom. Thought I am getting better. I sit to meditate every day. And I pause so much more....but if I would just let it go....I think I might not get up for weeks!
Time, time, time. Lack thereof. "If I lie down now, is that going to change the trajectory of my day?" (Hell yes it will and amen to that) BUT the trajectory I worry about is slipping into a less productive energy.
This is exactly what I was going to say. No time to rest, gotta do more more more.
After 20+ years of practice, I am still "bad" at Savasana. Feel that I took the time to practice and now time to get on with whatever. It always has been a challenge for me.
There is too much you need to get done. You don’t have time for rest.
"You should be something...."
"not now... I´ll rest later..."
To answer the question of how I resist, here is what my inner voice says: “Yes you totally will rest. But first... (fill in the blank)” usually it’s cooking, laundry, or at work, “as soon as I’m done with the project...” lol.
Thank you! Great message and reminder to value rest. I’m 78 years and honestly that inner critic is still alive and well! I don’t have a paying job but do have interest in reading and art work and piano. Never feel like I did “enough”! Even when I do savasana I wonder did I do a good savasana! Sigh!
i play mind games: ie if i am aware that i am resisting then i am silently witnessing my behavior. and as silence is associated with rest. i am resting. (laughter)
fyi i have been meditating twice a day for more than 50 years. and generally sleep 10 hours each night. and STILL there is resistance. the indefatigable nature of ego.
So much to do, so little time to do it.
“It will just take less than an hour and then you will rest better knowing it’s done”