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Dear Lizzie, I felt very much the same. It was difficult to just be during my long and beautiful holidays. I also had the impulses of feeling rushed and slightly frustrated. Gradually it went away. I reminded myself that this quality time with my children, husband, friends is a gift. And that the present is the most precious moment of all. Maybe it was my way of taking 3 breaths?!

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It really was and I share a 3 part breath to many of executives. Need to make this a new habit for me. Sounds great. Hard to do. :) Have a wonderful day, Lizzie. Thank you for the work you do.

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Yes!

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Also - I just listened to this episode and loved it

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Yay!!!

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Food for thought from a grandma who wished she'd known this as a mom :)

Until the age of 7 or thereabouts, our children are in total symbiosis with their parents and actually mirror our emotions, feelings, needs so when our child has a tantrum and really needs to take those 3 breaths and reconnect, they mirror our own need to do so... how we tend to react (usually mostly on the inside, but not always) regarding frustration of some kind or another...

if we could feel grateful for this chance to stop our focus on doing, going... getting things done and take the time to be... to slow down and reconnect with love and compassion via a warm hug (yes, it might take a while for it to be fully accepted) that simply (not immediately easy, I agree) expresses love... acceptance... and understanding that life is not always easy when we have expectations...

I'm still reflecting on how to best recognize our mirrored state (and remember to do so :) in such a situation, but if we are triggered, then the mirror , the resonance is definitely there...

So, wow! when all is said and done, when we shift our vision, that tantrum is a gift 🎁 and if we can be grateful for it, our energy is not sapped but restored, renewed along with our child's 🌿🌺

Very best regards and happy reflection too ✨🙋‍♀️🌸

PS teaching our children to Stop! Breathe! is a lifetime gift indeed 🌟

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I hear this with my heart. Thank you, Blánaid.

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beautifully put, you sound like a very wise loving grand mommy. Giving all at the exact perfect time! You are on time; it is never too late. Peace.

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Lizzie and Mary: Much gratitude for your somatic self care podcasts and taking us through the text, The Body Keeps the Score. Breath and "To Feel"; stopping giving myself enough time just to close my eyes and breathe when agitated or impatient! AND where in my body am I feeling these old stories, triggered once again by loss and grief?

These questions bring us to as Mary says "letting them burn OUT". Music is very healing for me. Recently, I was traveling in Asheville, NC and attended a class with yoga teacher Joe Taft. He had this song on his playlist; Mayestra singer songwriter Joyful Man. Beautiful lyrics and melodies that are in alignment with your podcast. So grateful for all of the teachers crossing my path; bringing me to offer more when I teach yoga. Yoga my passion. Live whole life with more self discovery; svadhyaya through the practices of body, mind, and spirit! Tat Sat ♥️

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I'll try it, as I head out to Burningman Man to start a new phase in my life as a Temple Guardian.. Scary completely different role/function.

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Wishing you serenity and lots of joy as you enter this new role, Lauren...

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Wow! It was hard to stop what I was doing and give myself space with 3 breaths. Thank you for this reminder to pause. I really need it right now as I am working on the computer way more than normal preparing a presentation for delivery. Have a great day. Namaste.

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I feel you, Melinda. It's that third breath that's so tricky...

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Ah yes!

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Yes yes yes!

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WOW, that is a wonderful episode. The step of inviting the emotions in instead of pushing them away feels so good but is so hard at the same time. I always feel like paralyzed when I swallow my emotions again and again and in the moment I allow them in I feel like I am able to move again. I will play with the 3 breaths in this for me challenging upcoming week. Lots of love. Silke

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Lots of love back to you, Silke!

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I tried the three breaths thinking this is easy, what is she saying it is harder than you think!! I got 2 1/2 breaths. :)

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Three breaths is the coolest! Wish I had known this when my three children were small! Lucky for you and them!!m xo Julie

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Compassion, healing and love. Namaste 🙏

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Indeed!

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Yes, focusing on breathing is so essential, yet our time with it so erratic. Thx Lizzie for your very helpful information! 🙏🏻

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Three breaths - they are a mind and heart saver for sure. I also do this when I feel tense which results in holding my breath so I add an affirmation and breathe slowly, deeply. My other is what I call the 'luxury breath' which is slow inhale through the nose, slow exhale through the mouth and feeling the muscles in my neck and shoulders melt towards the earth. Helps a lot. Thank you for letting us all admit our frustrations, know we all experience these feelings, and learn tools to reduce them. Namaste to you and the world

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Just so true!!

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