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Carolyn's avatar

While I experienced the same pressures you mention when I was your age, the pressures don't decrease as you age. I am 78 now and find that the pressures just change. That's why I appreciate what you and your mother have taken the time to help us all with. Breathe, breathe, breathe and be grateful.

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Lizzie Lasater's avatar

Love it! "Breathe and be grateful" is now my mantra for the week.

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nance freund's avatar

gratitude. and the silence between breaths. but is that because i am also over 70. and more being and less doing is “on the menu”.

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Lizzie Lasater's avatar

Amen.

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Carolyn's avatar

I have to work on the 'less doing'. I was raised on 'idle hands...'

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Siobhan Cunningham's avatar

I totally relate to that, holding pee, holding breath, lifted shoulders, gritted teeth! Some things I do: I rub essential oil between my hands and inhale, look out the window at the bird feeders, have a slow cup of tea without any music or tv or background noise on, take a shower, go for a sea swim and just stand in the water hearing the birds, the water and look into the horizon.

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Lizzie Lasater's avatar

love the oil idea. I'm going to start doing that. Smelling deeply is self care.

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Corine van der Veen's avatar

My nr.1 health problem is that I am in simphatetic state almost whole day long. What helps me is to connect with nature.( I live in the centre of Utrecht so that is a challenge):

step outside my apartment en take in the fresh cold air

watch the moon at night and breath the moon in (if that makes sense)

listen to the sound of the wind, the birds

Silence

when I am very stressed out: sitting down and strike my upper legs very soft and slowly, like petting a cat.

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Lizzie Lasater's avatar

Yes! Nature is self care.

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Suellen Roberts's avatar

I am seventy-four and a retired dietitian striving to be reflective, compassionate, helpful and kind to others and explore the elusiveness of certainly with this precious time.

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Alison's avatar

Living in a city and feeling a lack of connection to nature during the first wave of COVID , I started pausing to breath and look at the sky. It is always there, wherever I go… and it renews my connection to the wider natural world and the cosmos.It takes me out of my narrow self centered world view.

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Tauna Cole's avatar

Sometimes when I get home from work, I'll go outside and water all of the trees and plants, even if it's winter. It gives me time to be outdoors after being inside for hours, to not really think about anything and feel like I'm taking care of something valuable.

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Nancy Glover's avatar

I also at times find some mindful alignment in the household chores. When I need to expand my perspective, I have been looking up. Especially at the sky. We are so often looking down that the expansiveness of looking up helps me. Like a descending calming or broadening. And a good bath and a few pages of my book help too.

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Leslie Murphy Karath's avatar

Sitting outside in the sunlight doing nothing helps me connect to something bigger and brighter.

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Lizzie Lasater's avatar

So true. Sunlight is self care.

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yogelena's avatar

Feeding my horse in the morning. The feel of her fuzzy coat. The smell of her. Listening to her breath or even her little winney demanding for me to get the food in the bucket. Her eyes when I rub her face. Also the moon in the evening. Breathing the air as I find solace in the light.

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Lizzie Lasater's avatar

Absolutely. Animals are self care.

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Elena's avatar

Hello Lizzie, I am writing because I would like to know the brand of the best bolsters you use and all other restorative equipment and where to purchase? Thank you!

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Lizzie Lasater's avatar

Awwww, thanks for the compliment. I designed the bolsters myself. They are one-of-a-kind.

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Lesley Charters's avatar

I start my day sitting on the kitchen floor with our 15 month old puppy watching the changing light in the garden. If he wants to play I’ll get his toy box and play. If he settles I’ll sit and focus on my affirmations and gratitudes, body and breath and see what happens. It feels like I’m doing nothing and giving in to the dog but it probably makes a difference to how the rest of my day unfolds and my ability during the day to find moments of peace

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debbie kephart's avatar

Breathe...gratitude...morning walk to ground/be in nature

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Meredyth's avatar

Like others stated my main go to is stepping out, pausing, to sense nature. Inhale & exhale with eyes closed. Inside I take a moment to pause washing my hands, sensing the water or making a cup of hot water with lemon and sipping it, taking deep breaths. I also love to wrap up in a blanket and feel a cozy moment.

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deborah bollinger's avatar

To await your Sunday email and relax into that space

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Julie Trone's avatar

So many ways in addition to all things yoga. My favorites are decorator therapy where I do something to change the beauty in my home for example rotate art or declutter, walking the dog, reading an inspirational quote, and being outside to engage with nature no matter the weather - these really soothe my soul.

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Anna Noah's avatar

I sit and slowly and gently pet my dog when he’s on my lap. Research has shown that this increases both my dog’s and my dopamine levels (the “feel good” hormone).

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