I love that the Inuit tradition is not simply to shield the person(s) who caused the anger, but mostly to give oneself the space and time for quiet self reflection and love.
Love you sister. The frequent apologies delivered to mine after such moments have yielded an emotionally intelligent, forgiving human. You are a great mother. You are a great mother. You are a great mother.
Yes, the key to rupture, aside from self-empathy (which is very important), is repair. Children continue to feel secure and also learn a bunch of things from realizing humans have feelings, rupture in relationships, and can repair.
Yes I do. As a mother of three, now adult, children, I send you all of the empathy I have and wish you moments of reflection as well as forgiveness because mothering is messy and sometimes our children actually benefit from knowing we are human. It gives them permission to be human too while always working toward kindness and patience. And again forgiving ourselves.
I like that Inuit tradition; I definitely need space and silence when I'm angry. My struggle, though, is that I have two small children that I can't leave behind for those times when I need to just walk away. Sometimes I do a 'mommy time out' and walk into the next room, but there are days when that doesn't feel like enough. Any thoughts on that?
Hey Jacquie, i have 2 small kids too and already find it helpful to step into our (tiny) garden en breathe deeply. Most of the time they follow me outside so there we are, no socks or coats in a tiny space but somehow it really calms us down, even one minute. Locking myself in the bathroom or so always backfires. Good luck to you and hang in there! We’ll get there
I love how big and wide your truthful heart IS. You are always sharing with us from your heart and the real deal of life. With children, husband, and family. Everything you share lets us know we are lovable and HUMAN; and most of all not alone. Your truthful sharing helps us all realize that "hey I do that too; OR yeah, I feel you; I've been in your exact same spot".....So powerful to let us all know we are human, lovable and not alone. Thank you Lizzie for helping us learn to love ourselves a little more each day; forever widening our hearts and stretching our minds more open for forgiveness of ourselves too. 🌻 So glad your life is filled with those rascals 😁
beautiful lessons... exactly what I needed to read. I'm in the last days of my pregnancy (1 week and 4 days to go until 40 weeks, but who's counting right?!) when the waiting game of the baby coming seems to be drawing all kinds of emotions out of me. I've clicked on the silence as empathy practice, thank you for sharing, a true gift in my day filled with uncertainty.
At a time when anger was my constant companion, I read that Gandhi practiced one day of silence each week, so I decided to try doing the same. My family learned to save their most infuriating shares for that day (Tuesday) knowing that I would listen and not react outwardly. After a year, we had all learned a great deal that helps me to this day.
I have had angry outbursts. Sometimes I've walked and never seem to get far enough to let it go completely. It is still simmering. Working to understand what the anger was about didn't seem to stop it from happening. What has helped me is something I heard your Mom say recently "There is no anger without righteousness"
I love that the Inuit tradition is not simply to shield the person(s) who caused the anger, but mostly to give oneself the space and time for quiet self reflection and love.
The boys needed to learn a lesson too, from an adult; there are consequences from their behavior.
Love you sister. The frequent apologies delivered to mine after such moments have yielded an emotionally intelligent, forgiving human. You are a great mother. You are a great mother. You are a great mother.
Thaaaaaank you for this, Elena
Yes, the key to rupture, aside from self-empathy (which is very important), is repair. Children continue to feel secure and also learn a bunch of things from realizing humans have feelings, rupture in relationships, and can repair.
Oh oh oh, Dana, love this framing of rupture and repair. Thank you.
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I think your mum would say.. "how human of me"! And honest of you to share. I've been there but must try the Inuit tradition next time.
Oh I love that Inuit tradition! Gonna try it 😃
Yes I do. As a mother of three, now adult, children, I send you all of the empathy I have and wish you moments of reflection as well as forgiveness because mothering is messy and sometimes our children actually benefit from knowing we are human. It gives them permission to be human too while always working toward kindness and patience. And again forgiving ourselves.
I like that Inuit tradition; I definitely need space and silence when I'm angry. My struggle, though, is that I have two small children that I can't leave behind for those times when I need to just walk away. Sometimes I do a 'mommy time out' and walk into the next room, but there are days when that doesn't feel like enough. Any thoughts on that?
My thought is that I looooooove “mommy time out” - I’ll try that next time!
Hey Jacquie, i have 2 small kids too and already find it helpful to step into our (tiny) garden en breathe deeply. Most of the time they follow me outside so there we are, no socks or coats in a tiny space but somehow it really calms us down, even one minute. Locking myself in the bathroom or so always backfires. Good luck to you and hang in there! We’ll get there
Yes to going outside! I don't have a yard, but our neighborhood is very walkable and has lots of trees!
Let yourself be human. Sending a huge hug.
Thanks for sharing. Beautiful tradition. Here's hoping all our "paths to the stick" become shorter with time.
You are only human, Apologizing shows your boys they can be too🥰🙏
Lizzie ♥️
I love how big and wide your truthful heart IS. You are always sharing with us from your heart and the real deal of life. With children, husband, and family. Everything you share lets us know we are lovable and HUMAN; and most of all not alone. Your truthful sharing helps us all realize that "hey I do that too; OR yeah, I feel you; I've been in your exact same spot".....So powerful to let us all know we are human, lovable and not alone. Thank you Lizzie for helping us learn to love ourselves a little more each day; forever widening our hearts and stretching our minds more open for forgiveness of ourselves too. 🌻 So glad your life is filled with those rascals 😁
So glad you're here, Charlotte
Thank you for this week’s lovely, healing practice ❤️
what a beautiful family . How wonderful it is to live such a life .
please keep up the good work .
beautiful lessons... exactly what I needed to read. I'm in the last days of my pregnancy (1 week and 4 days to go until 40 weeks, but who's counting right?!) when the waiting game of the baby coming seems to be drawing all kinds of emotions out of me. I've clicked on the silence as empathy practice, thank you for sharing, a true gift in my day filled with uncertainty.
"Who's counting" LOL - hang in there, Pilar
At a time when anger was my constant companion, I read that Gandhi practiced one day of silence each week, so I decided to try doing the same. My family learned to save their most infuriating shares for that day (Tuesday) knowing that I would listen and not react outwardly. After a year, we had all learned a great deal that helps me to this day.
I have had angry outbursts. Sometimes I've walked and never seem to get far enough to let it go completely. It is still simmering. Working to understand what the anger was about didn't seem to stop it from happening. What has helped me is something I heard your Mom say recently "There is no anger without righteousness"